Confusion is the co-existence of opposing feelings and desires, be it fear and attraction, happiness and loss or hope and despair. While it is natural to have opposing feelings in a given context, the belief that opposing feelings should not exist may create confusion and discomfort as a result. At times, only one of our feelings are known to us, while the other is hidden from our conscious thoughts.
If you are confronted with confusing feelings, you may:
- Act inconsistently
- Experience a loss of centre from where decisions could be made easily
- Contradict yourself, being inconsistent in speech and action, such as
- Saying one thing and doing another
- Saying opposite things at different times and in different contexts
- Saying or doing things which are against your beliefs
There are a few things you can do to not let the confusion overwhelm and stress you out:
- Allow time and space to reflect so that the range of feelings and contradictory beliefs can emerge into consciousness.
- Make room for both feelings that you are experiencing, allow yourself to feel them both fully, without rejecting one or the other.
- If fear or doubt emerges, allow it space, it may dissolve as an imagined worry or it may show you what is most important to you.
- Try to prioritise what is more important in a given situations by identifying the order of things: what is an emergency, what is important and what is rather secondary. Put first things first.