“You feel good when you look good” is a common notion that revolves around our daily routines and it becomes a driving force in our maintaining a dietary plan, choosing our wardrobe and involving ourselves in any physical pursuit. But what if we look at it the other way around as “You look good when you feel good”. A person might be clad in neat clothes, carry a healthy body but if the mind is fatigued, it somehow shows. Your face is the mirror of your soul and that’s rightly said as we try to understand it simply. All the activities that we go about are generated and regulated by our brain and then the body becomes a channel through which they are executed.
The thought process of a person is always emotion driven even if it is a routine work and has been repeated on daily basis but the work efficiency relies on the emotional state. Even carrying oneself in a uniformed way seems to be different every other day. Its quite commonly observed that if a person is feeling low, he will “fake it to make it” through the day and he wouldn’t even know himself as putting an extra effort over ourselves always does the magic. But the spell is broken if the realization of our own outer selves’ perfections doesn’t coincide with the emptiness inside.
“Get over” or “sleep on it” might be the constant sticky note reminders that we save for ourselves but trying to find out the root cause of one’s shifted mental temperament is extremely important which sometimes is done better with another person’s help as “two minds are better than one”. Connecting to yourself and then connecting to others; its from inside out. If a person is carrying a load inside then the shoulders will droop down and the eye bags will appear and chattering mouth will hush and then carry yourself in your best attire, the goodness outside cannot be soaked inside.
Looking at yourself in the mirror, a person doesn’t notice the healthy body or the fine clothes but the gaze falls on our own eyes first so when you look at yourself, be honest to yourself in self examining by embracing the low side. Confide in a friend, unburden, vent out and then relieve yourself from your mental exhaustion to make space for some positivity and eventually when you feel better , then feeling your best doesn’t feel hard to achieve.
The author Khushbakht Jawaid is a survivor. She is a former teacher, mother of two and a freelance event manager. Her resilience and courage is inspirational.