We live in a society which has a majority of mental health problems yet we fail to look at its deeper causes.
One of the top reasons for us not to be at peace with ourselves is because we have only learnt to escape the pain in every form.
Why do we treat vulnerability as a curse? Is showing emotions a sin? Or by showing them we will not be “strong” which will obviously expose us to pain.
Yet what we fail to understand is everytime we avoid being vulnerable, the emotions come out in some other way, it can be anger, isolation, even depression if long term neglected.
We are obsessed with being the Strong One even if we are breaking inside, examples?
Let’s chill even if you want to rant and cry.
Let’s take out frustration on someone else because I can’t open-up to my emotional wounds and appear weak.
Everyday we seem to observe the toxicity among us and everyday we seem to avoid our vulnerable parts yet leading to all of it.
There are things we say when people are in critical times, I believe learning works alot and few things we should not say which prevents vulnerability.
Don’t worry instead say it’s okay to worry, cry and vent, God is with you, I’m with you
Everything will be fine instead say Things may never be the same if you want to talk about it, you can
Have patience instead say you may cry and feel this way its very hard, May Allah grant you reward for your patience
You will worry, you will cry, don’t stop it.
Its okay to be weak, to cry, to vent out “to a trustworthy one”, to feel sad and not do anything for a while. Keeping yourself 100% busy will not be a cure to your damage.
Face it, heal it, let others do the same. Forcing yourself to be strong is only increasing the amount of toxicity in the society.
Your vulnerability is beautiful, it makes you a human. And you will get better by dealing with it only.
Written by: Maha Nadeem
Email: Mahanadeem98@gmail.com
About the Writer:
The writer is a certified Public Speaker, Communication Skills Trainer and Chief Editor.
Believing in the healing power of words and their usage, an Eternal Optimist by nature, is trying to turn her wounds into wisdom